Imagine you’re at the supermarket.
You see a random kid holding a chocolate bar and lying on the ground, crying. What started as a stubborn demand for another bar soon became a full-blown emotional meltdown.
How do you feel about the situation? Should the kid stop whining and eat the chocolate they already have in their hand? Or should they keep crying about buying another one?
This situation perfectly reflects what many people are doing with their lives. Children do not always whine because they are hungry or tired; it is just the stress. The stress of being overwhelmed, not getting what they want, or the dread of being unable to do what is needed for their happiness.
Unlike the kid in the supermarket, you, as an adult, are not so helpless. Your situation can change if you set your mind to it. But this requires getting out of your comfort zone, the limits the intruder has set for you.
If only we stick to improving our lives and negating self-deprecating beliefs, winning would not be so difficult.
How Does Whining Bring Doom?
Whining means manifesting your doom by winning at losing.
You start wearing this attitude in every aspect of life. You begin to view even the slightest setbacks and hurdles as huge threats that turn you into a person who is never satisfied with their achievements.
Your mental space becomes claustrophobic as you resort to wailing to escape. It constricts your mental muscles and deprives you of your problem-solving skills. It is like crying that the boat is sinking even though you have a life jacket on and know how to swim. Pretty absurd.
You just have to swim to the shore, but you are not willing to leave the boat, just like how you want to stay in your comfort zone.
What Causes This Whining?
An obvious answer would be the conditional formatting most people have gone through during their teenage and childhood years. Seeing others complain about their situations has led us to adopt the same mindset. Or it could be a trauma response to stressful situations.
Many have grown up in environments that have altered our perception of life. Demeaning remarks, unpleasant social experiences, and constant failures have made them fear taking risks. Their circumstances and inadequate mental space sometimes make them unwelcoming to changes and struggles. But all this can be countered with the proper guidance and motivation.
How to Stop Whining and Start Winning?
Break Away From the Crowd
Social influence plays a significant role in shaping your mindset and your action plan in the face of adversity. Some groups motivate others to face the problem head-on, while others promote dropping the scuffle mid-way and venting out.
Don’t let the Caws Overpower You
Don’t let the intrusive thoughts get the best of you. Learn to understand the meanings behind intentions. Consider it a crime to let bad choices cloud your vision of success and fulfillment. Whenever you see a cawing crow lurking around, just close your eyes and think of things that comfort you. You will prove them wrong and win in life.
The majority of villains in the movie blame the world for their crimes. Do you also plan on being the villain of your story? Probably not. So, take responsibility, find ways to stop the whining woes, and fix your life. This journey may take months or years, but as you reach the end, you will see yourself in a new light.
Don’t Fret. This blog is not the only guide to stop whining. Rob White’s The Maestro Monologue is a thought-provoking book on winning at life by embarking on a journey of self-improvement. Grab your copy now on Amazon.